Trying to raise my kids the best I can

Monday, December 28, 2009

Antibiotics rant

Getting on my soapbox... We need to have a massive campaign to stop pumping antibiotics into our food supply animals. It's wrecking the antibiotic strength. And if that leads to having to go back to "traditional farming" than GREAT. That's just a bonus.

The United States now has it's first case of drug resistant TB.

I hate to be a downer, but I'm scared that this will never be addressed because Monsanto is too powerful. They sell the corn that the cattle feed on. They would never allow this.

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Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Child Hunger Soaring in America

There has definitely been a "perfect storm" of factors that has created this generation that is unable to survive in lean times.

Some of the factors:

  • I read this awesome book about how convenience foods were introduced and pushed starting in the 50's. It's pretty and
  • Then there is the government subsidy of corn!!! (Creating super cheap junk food)
  • Let's talk about beans and rice. The classic staple foods. They get me by on many a lean weeks (like this week). One of the keys to that recipe though is fresh, bulk beans and rice. The older stuff doesn't cook right. And the small packages jack up the price. These staple foods are not available in your average grocery store. It is only available in ethnic areas that actually buy it on a regular basis. Supply and demand. But obviously that's a vicious cycle. Poor people don't have access to it. Poor people don't know how to cook it. Poor people don't buy it. So stores don't sell it. Round and round.
  • Grocery stores in impoverished areas have small, expensive selections of fruits and vegetables. Many poor people don't have transportation to access decent produce.
  • Most American's don't know how to farm. They don't know how to cook. They're trapped in this horrible position. Honestly, I don't blame them at all! This is second/third generational. These girls mothers never taught them these skills. You have to go out of your way to learn them.

Poor, uneducated, and low IQ people have every obstacle in the world. I only have sympathy for them.

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Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Stupid Christians

Why are so many Christians gullible and brain dead? Why do they believe every crazy email they get and forward them? Why do they fall prey to every Republican scare tactic.

Thankfully, I don't get much junk forwarded email. And thankfully most of the Christians I know are educated, wise, and thoughtful.

Just to be a rebel I put the Muslim stamps on my Christmas cards. Ha ha. Although you'd never know. It's in the shape of a Christmas tree. Here's a pic.
But to the idiots forwarding this email I wanted to post it here and the beautiful response my friend Erin wrote:

If there is only ONE thing you forward today... let it be this!

Now President Obama has directed the United States Postal Service to REMEMBER and HONOR the EID MUSLIM holiday season with a new commemorative 44 Cent First ClassHoliday Postage Stamp..

REMEMBER to adamantly & vocally BOYCOTT this stamp, when you are purchasing your stamps at the post office.
All you have to say is "No thank you, I do not want that Muslim Stamp on my letters!"

To use this stamp would be a slap in the face to all those AMERICANS who died at the hands of those whom this stamp honors.

REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of Pan Am Flight 103!

REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of the World Trade Center in 1993!

REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of the Marine Barracks in Lebanon!

REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of the military Barracks in Saudi Arabia!

REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of the American Embassies in Africa!

REMEMBER the MUSLIM bombing of the USS COLE!

REMEMBER the MUSLIM attack on 9/11/2001!

REMEMBER all the AMERICAN lives that were lost in those vicious MUSLIM attacks!

Pass this along to every Patriotic AMERICAN that you know and let's get the word out!

Erin's response:
hmmmm I am thinking about this type of thing more and more. I wonder what a Muslim family would feel if they received this type of email in their inbox. Not all Muslims bombed the world trade center, hijacked airliners, etc... nor did most Muslims endorse those actions.

I don't think that we should associate all Muslim men and women with the acts of a few, any more than we should associate all Christians with Westboro Baptist and their abhorrent actions.

The goal of everything that we say and do should be to promote the Gospel of Jesus. I'm not seeing much promotion of Jesus in forwarding boycotting Muslim stamps. In fact I think the opposite is being accomplished.

I have seen Christmas and Chanakkuah and Kwanza and even solstice stamps at the post office for years. Why shouldn't we have a Rammadin stamp? Should the sins of a few in that religion be something that means they aren't allowed to have the same priviladges as the other religions in this country?

I do believe that Islam is wrong. I believe that it is actually the only major world religion that is founded and guided by Satan rather than just the flesh of men. But I also believe that men and women in this religion should be loved just like any other. I want to see more and more people seeking out Yeshua, the true God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. Not the false god of Abraham that the Muslims have set up

I'm just really searching myself on this subject. Wondering how to walk the fine line between being patriotic, remembering that we are at war with only the extremist people of a religion not just a country, and also remember that we are at the same time to love all people to share the gospel of Christ. I'm trying to figure out for myself how this type of thing is promoting the Gospel of Christ.

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Sunday, December 13, 2009

An exciting night last night

It started the way most exciting nights around here start... a Cambodian birthday party, a lot of drunk adults, a big fight. I dragged Timmy out of the house before someone got hurt. On the way out he punched the wall. When we got home and looked at his hand it looked like the pinky was dislocated. I thought about trying to fix it myself. We discussed looking up how to "pop it in" online. You know how emergency rooms can be such a crap shoot. About half the times I've gone I've regretted it... long waits, no help.

Well, this time we made the right call and decided to go. His hand was x-rayed. woooh-eee. If I could get the pictures to post I will. It was CRAZY looking. The doc said it was dislocated in two places but the main dislocation was the bone in the hand, not the pinky. A bone was chipped during the dislocation and the doc said he may need surgery to prevent it from popping out again.

They numbed it up and then the nurse pulled on his arm while the doctor pulled on his hand and they tugged with all their might but they just couldn't get it!!! It was awful! Timmy was such a trooper though. We had pretty much given up and the nurse turned her back to get some bandages when the doctor tried a completely different position and pushed the bone into place with his thumbs. Timmy said he could immediately tell it was in the right position.

Then they put a semi-cast on it and gave him some awesome pain medicine. We talked to the nurses about the awful job prospects for new grads. They gave me lots of sympathy and one of them even wrote down a list of places I should try applying at.

The pathetic part of the story is that my husband and I had a great time. If felt like a date. We must not get enough alone time, because we've both been raving about how much fun it was to hang out together for a couple of hours without any kids.

Update: He's in a full cast now.

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Friday, December 11, 2009

A memory

My husband is going to a wake today. Which reminds me of a memory from my past. When I was about six years old my uncle died. I went to his funeral and saw his body. At the reception I ate carrot cake, which is one of my favorites. Just as I bit into it I remembered the creepy look of the cold dead body. It took me twenty years before I could enjoy carrot cake again.

Wednesday, December 09, 2009

An anticlimactic election

Today was the big election. We're finding a replacement for our beloved Senator Ted Kennedy who passed away. It's actually a primary. But that's just a technicality because the Massachusetts Senate seat always goes Democrat. It's a rule.

I've been all pumped up to vote for Capuano. Telling everyone I know to vote for him. Excitedly watching the polling data. You get the idea. So this morning I strut into my precinct voting facility. I tell them my name and address. I collect my voting paper. And I look down in horror to see the names of two Republican candidates. I never changed my party registration!!!! Disappointed, I handed the paper back to the lady. She and the other volunteer looked startled and then tried to figure out what the protocol was to undo a voter check in.

Perhaps I got to vote anyway though. When I was at my sister in laws this morning I was chatting with an elderly Cambodian man. He barely spoke English. My husband was telling him that I was going to vote. He said he was too! Surprised and curious I asked him who he was voting for. His response was basically, "I have no idea". ha ha. I told him to vote for Mike.

In the end the race that I hoped would be tight ended up being a clean victory for Martha Coakley. Oh well. I hadn't gotten my hopes up toooo much, because the polls were showing a victory for her before hand. I am pleased to have a female representing us though. I mean, to have a female representing us after we attend to this minor detail of a thing called an "election". lol.


Saturday, December 05, 2009

From an OB blog:

Delayed Cord Clamping Should Be Standard Practice in Obstetrics

Yes! I never saw a shred of evidence for immediate clamping. How the heck did it become commonplace? It's bizarre!!!!

Does anyone else go: when watching a tv reenactment or a news show about an emergency home/car birth. Everyone's all panicky and there's a bloody cold baby on the ground and what's the biggest priority??? Gotta tie that cord off with a shoe string!!!!!!

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Wednesday, December 02, 2009

The Role of the Extended Family

I wrote this in reaction to the Manhattan Declaration. I'm annoyed as all get out that Christians are still pouring their energy into trampling human rights in the misguided belief that a gay couple somehow, miraculously, effects my marriage. News flash. It doesn't. This article that I wrote has, actually, very little to do with that subject, so don't click away just yet! Read on and find out my theory on the TRUE cause of the demise of marriage and family in America.

The American church is somewhat focused on supporting/protecting marriage. And rightly so. The divorce rate is sad. Our culture is seemingly falling apart at the seams. Lets talk about the root causes of divorce. I have my pet theory and I'd like to hear yours.

My pet theory stems from the collapse of the extended family. I feel so privileged to be a part of a big extended family through my husband. (I'll admit that's part of what attracted me about him). If you'll bear with me I'd like to:
  1. describe some of the qualities of a close extended family
  2. and then discuss in more detail how this supports marriage
  3. and the political/religious ramifications of this...
Some qualities you might find in a close extended family- the kind God designed us to have!:

  • We all live together or near each other.
  • We eat together probably every other day. Cooking is a centerpiece to the home.
  • The people range in age from newborn to elderly with very few age gaps.
  • We fight. We get on each others nerves. There is dysfunction. There is mental illness. But in the end we protect each other. We support each other. We forgive each other. We don't give up on each other.
  • Most socialization occurs through family. Not the church. Not hobbies. Not sports. FAMILY.
  • There is no loneliness. Children live a childhood free from friendlessness or being left out or picked on.
  • Elderly people are respected and taken care of. And like the children, never lonely.
OK. How does this support marriage? First of all, many of the root causes of divorce are nipped in the bud. If a man isn't taking care of his family or is hitting his wife, the extended family observes this and steps in. Elders set a good example for youngers. Often time there is an alpha male and an alpha female in the extended family. In a case like this the alpha male might have to physically intervene. (This has happened in my husband's family. He choked his brother in law when he tried to drive his family home completely drunk).

Secondly, because most socialization occurs in the family, your role is so much more than just wife. You are also: aunt, cousin, sister in law, etc. So to divorce a husband you have to divorce yourself from all those other roles too. One of you, inevitably would have to "leave" the group. This is so sacrificial it makes divorce undesirable in all except the most extreme circumstances.

So. To the political and church ramifications. How do we support marriage in America? Well, I can tell you one thing that isn't going to make a wink of a difference in my marriage- and that is whether Joe and Steve can marry. So stop wasting time on that battle. Its misplaced energy!

Here are some things conservative Christians should be supporting:
  • Mom's at home
  • Duplex and in-law apartment type housing
  • Slow cooking. Home cooking.
  • Large families. Bountiful children.
Things we should be more cautious about- not necessarily protest- but just be aware that it isn't "ideal":

  • Single houses. Far apart.
  • Daycare
  • Fast food. Convenience food.
  • Small families.
  • Church engagements, ministries, hobbies, sports outside of the home
  • Elderly housing
If you look back to the beginnings of the New Testament, entire households were often converted together.

And I'd like to encourage those of you who aren't in an extended family like this, that the chance to create this beautiful community is renewed with every generation. So, when your kids grow up and begin to have children of their own you can invite them to live near you, continue a close relationship with you, and you can take the honorary "alpha " role.

NOTE: This may be the first of a two or three part series. Depending on how busy I get with my new online bachelors classes. lol.

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