Trying to raise my kids the best I can

Sunday, December 31, 2006

The N word

Parents need to teach their kids about the birds and the bees. They also need to teach their kids the rules of the N word. It's way too important for them to just figure out on their own. I had this talk with my boys recently. Here's a summary of the rules of the N word in case you're not from the ghetto.

N---er is a the worst racial epithet in the English language and one that must never be uttered. Saying it will likely result in: getting kicked out of school, fired from your job, losing friends, offending people. etc.

Nigga (plural: niggaz) is an acceptable word to refer to someone in a casual ghetto setting. However, it's very important that you follow the rules of use:

#1 You have to pronounce it right
#2 You have to use it in the appropriate context (ghetto setting or among close friends).
#3 You can't be white.

Now since my kids are only half white they will probably qualify for nigga. But they have to be down with the homies first. Like, if they were really dorky I don't think they could pull it off. But they're not. :)

A little while back a teacher (Paul Dawson) was suspended for calling a student "nigga". I feel so bad for the guy because he was totally "lynched" by the media for it. He almost understood how "nigga" worked. He got rule number one right. Just not two and three. Poor guy.

Anyway, this isn't a commentary on the appropriateness of the word- I'm just explaining facts about it. Although if I were to give my opinion I would say that I'm OK with nigga because in my humble opinion it softens the blow of the N word.

Also important: The word niggard means a miser. And niggardly means stingy or miserly. Both, perfectly normal English words which also must be avoided under all circumstances due to the potential (likely) misunderstanding that will ensue. Just ask David Howard, a mayoral aide who was asked to step down for using that word.


Friday, December 29, 2006

Review of Eragon

This is a little old, since we saw it the first weekend it came out, but better late than never...

I've been a big fan of this series since I first read the book three years ago. So you can imagine how excited I was that the movie has come out. I saw it with my family and it was GREAT. Very true to the book- everything was just how I imagined it would be. thumbs up thumbs up (Get it? Two thumbs up giggle) Of course, if you haven't read it then I have to warn you that it is violent fantasy kind of like Lord of the Rings.

Also, I thought you might get a kick out of hearing that my husband and I, on the way home from the movie, decided we would name our next daughter Saphira. It's a beautiful name, isn't it?


Saturday, December 16, 2006

My new favorite snack

I wanted to share with you my new favorite snack. I LUV em!!!! And they are so healthy for you: 3 g carbs 10 g protein 6 g of fat. They are replacing my old favorite snack: Zone bars. In fact, the other day I ate a Zone bar again and I found it to be way too sweet. These Q Smart bars are JUST RIGHT.

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Americans and sex

America has a warped relationship with sex. On the one hand it surrounds us in the media - almost inescapably. On the other hand, Americans are uncomfortable with it. Most other countries/cultures in the world are much more open to their sexuality than Americans. Even our Canadian and British counterparts view nudity without blinking an eye. Even touching makes us uncomfortable. Men kissing men on the cheek here would be "gay", but in other parts of the world it would be a greeting.

I remember the first time I realized I wasn't like other Americans in this regard. It was during the Janet Jackson Super Bowl scandal. First of all, I saw it and she flashed her breast for maybe one second and it wasn't an up close shot, so it wasn't as crazy as it was made out to be. Anyway, the aftermath of it was that Americans were in an uproar. But I was like "what was the big deal?" And some may say "What if your son's saw that"? But that wouldn't change my opinion. My son's see my breasts all the time. Breasts are a normal beautiful part of a woman's body.

I started a debate in the "Intense Fellowship" forum of Gentle Christian Mothers, about this very subject. Many of the women were very heated about the subject. One of the women from another country posted that this instense debate only proves that American's do have hang ups about sex which I thought was a good point. Then, just recently, I got a personal message from the moderators saying that they were removing the debate and going to pray about it. I am completely shocked that this subject has become so scandalous that it is not worthy of debate anymore. I suppose that proves my point more than anything else I've said so far.

Saturday, December 09, 2006


I am so blessed to have health insurance that covers chiropractor appointments right now. I've started going to fix some minor things and I have been really impressed with the results. Two things I didn't think could be fixed were my headaches and knee pain. Both, however, have disappeared since I started going. These were problems that I was very close to pursuing with my primary care physician. I can't imagine the amount of money that could have been blown trying to diagnose those pains when all they required was some joint adjustments.

One issue that always worried me was my hip misalignment causing one leg to be longer. Every time I go he has to readjust it. We don't know how long the adjustment lasts but I'm comforted to know that at least some of the time it is correct. He said my hip was so misaligned it was a miracle I didn't have lower back pain.

So I have become a big fan of chiropractor treatment. I've got my husband going too for his back pain and when I have enough money I would like to bring my kids in too. I consider it preventative medicine. Brandon in particular could probably use it because he wears out the posterior lateral part of the soles of his shoes which means he is walking on them weird. I heard about some kids who never needed antibiotics for their ear infections because instead their parents took them to the chiropractor to get an adjustment which helped the ear fluid drain.

As a soon-to-be nurse I am a huge advocate for joining modern medicine with alternative/homeopathic medicine. There is so much good we can take from both fields.


Sunday, December 03, 2006

Stuff to make you laugh

What's green and grows and has wheels? (Answer at end of post)

How does a homeschooler change a lightbulb?

First, mom checks three books on electricity out of the library, then the kids make models of light bulbs, read a biography of Thomas Edison and do a skit based on his life.
Next, everyone studies the history of lighting methods, wrapping up with dipping their own candles.
Next, everyone takes a trip to the store where they compare types of light bulbs as well as prices and figure out how much change they'll get if they buy two bulbs for $1.99 and pay with a five dollar bill.
On the way home, a discussion develops over the history of money and also Abraham Lincoln, as his picture is on the five dollar bill.
Finally, after building a homemade ladder out of branches dragged from the woods, the light bulb is installed.
And there is light.

Heaven is: French chefs, British police, German mechanics, and Italian lovers, all organized by the Swiss.
Hell, on the other hand, is: British chefs, German police, French mechanics, and Swiss lovers, all organized by the Italians."

And some links:

A. Grass. I was just kidding about the wheels.


<BASE href=" /"> <META NAME="Keywords" CONTENT="parenting blog, natural mother, all natural mother, parenting tips, parenting techniques, homeschool mother, christian mother, mothering tips, mothers blog "> <META NAME="Description" CONTENT="An All Natural Mother’s Guide to Parenting: Find information on Parenting.">